I read an article recently on MSN.com (yes, I have that much time on my hands) about how to date multiple people at the same time. It was clearly aimed towards men. But I am seriously considering employing this strategy for several reasons:
1) I am not ready (or in a position) to settle down at this point,
2) I don't know that one person will embody all the different facets that I want in a man.
So, I'm going to date buffet style.
A, the 28 year old, fulfills the sexual role and also allows me to be the person in control in the relationship (which is new for me after the last 2 men I dated). He also helps me be silly and to feel young. All good things. The downside? He doesn't like nice restaurants or wine. And he is extremely busy (of course so am I). Oh yeah, and he's 28 so our conversations (as of yet) have not been of an incredible depth. He doesn't make me think and I miss that.
So, lets introduce M, the date from Parish. M shares my love of fine wine and food. He makes me think and laugh on a slightly more intelligent level than A. He also really seems to like me and accepts my totaly bitchy side. Downside? I am not as physically attracted to him as I am A. He also doesn't seem to be into sports as much as I am (college football is around the corner) and is slightly artsier than I need to be.
And then there is Z. I leave tomorrow morning for Las Vegas and Z (an old crush from high school) will be there. Z and I have been flirting/romantically linked for nearly 21 years. He connects me to my past and makes me feel like the girl I was in High School. He is also a huge football fan and enjoys good food and wine - sounds like he's the answer, huh?. Problem? He lives in Chicago and just broke up with his fiancee.
The main point here is that all these men are worth keeping around and spending time with for the unique traits and talents they bring to the table. I don't see the point in jettisoning any of them.
So, I am going to date like a man.
Take care, dear readers - we'll see how this experiment goes.
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I am amused reading this b/c A became one of my best friends. He is deeper than I initially gave him credit. He helped me through a number of issues over the years and I love him dearly for it.
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