Ode to 30-something Women

A couple weeks ago a friend depressed me by saying that most men "my age" are interested in 20 year old women.

Now, pulled out of my funk and with a new attitude - I wonder why this upset me at all.

A) I don't want to be a 20-something woman again. Filled with all the fear and doubt and not understanding myself, my career, my life, my friends. and B) I don't want to date men "my age" who would rather be with these women.

30-somethings have it all over these women.

Sure, we may not (or may) be as taut as those women in the body. But we are "taut" where it counts.

We know what we want. We have no need to play games with anyone's heart. We are honest, forthcoming, and know ourselves well enough to know what works for us. And what doesn't.

We have our own. Our own career, our own homes, our own money, our own social group, our own friends. We won't suck off yours or try to hold you back. We won't whine when you have to work late or want to hang with your friends as long as you don't whine when we do the same - because we will.

We aren't going to use you. We have everything we need. We have money, friends, etc. We don't expect you to pay. Bottom line, we don't think dollars drip from mens penises. We are grateful and flattered when you do choose to pay because we know what it means to earn our own money.

We are unbelievably beautiful. This beauty goes beyond low cut shirts, high heels and size 0 baby doll dresses. We have the beauty of women who are happy with themselves, who have learned their lessons. The beauty of women content with their lives. We can take or leave you. We would love to have you as part of our lives but we don't need you. We're beyond that. All we need is our friends, our families, our careers, our causes. We are already fulfilled. We aren't looking for our other half. We are looking for another whole to compliment us.

And if this scares you and makes you want to run to the 20-somethings. So be it.

Take care, dear readers. I'm already whole.