We all play director/producer in our own lives. We cast people in roles. We give them roles, defined personalities, movements, expectations and sit back, waiting for them to fulfill them. But we leave something out.
We don't give them the script.
We project certain expectations onto the people in our lives - cast them, so to speak. This is my best friend - she does this. This is my romantic lead - he says this. This is my protagonist - they do this (I always beat them, of course).
The problem is that when you don't give your players a script they don't know the expectations and they find it impossible to live up to them. That leaves you, the director, frustrated; and them, the cast, confused - not understanding what was expected of them and, therefore, unable to meet your expectations.
And the irony of this situation is that as you are casting others; those same others are casting you. And you don't have their script. And you don't know what is expected of you. And you end up confused. And the director ends up disappointed in you.
And the world keeps turning.
(I'd prefer to end this with some great revelation or solution but quite honestly I'm still working this one out for myself).
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